Life in God’s Family: The Basis and Nature of the Ten Commandments

How would you describe an ideal family?

Is it a family in which the children always obey every rule the parents make?

We know that is not the case. Indeed, outward obedience to parents can co-exist with deep anger and resentment, as displayed by the older son in Luke 15.

Instead, love and trust characterize the ideal family. There is obedience to parents, yes – but that obedience flows out of love, out of trust, out of a feeling of security and acceptance.

Just so in the family of God. God’s family members surely obey – but not with the outward, formal obedience of the Pharisees. Their obedience instead is joyful and willing, flowing from confidence in the loving character of God.

Consider the Ten Commandments in this regard. These commandments summarize God’s torah, His instructions to His people. Many misunderstand both the nature and implications of these commandments. So let’s examine, first of all, the basis and nature of the Ten Commandments. From these we’ll draw out four implications for all the Commandments. In future devotions we’ll consider the Commandments one by one.

The Basis of the Ten Commandments: Relationship with God

The people of Israel do not come into a relationship with God by obeying the Ten Commandments; they are already in a relationship with Him when He speaks the Commandments.

  • When Moses first approaches Pharaoh, God says, “Israel is my firstborn son” (Exodus 4:22).
  • God told Moses at the burning bush that the people would worship Him at Sinai (Exodus 3:12).
  • God reiterates that plan multiple times in words spoken to Pharaoh (Exodus 4:23, 5:1, 5:3, 8:1, 8:20, 9:1, 9:13, 10:3).
  • When they first arrive at Sinai, God says, “You yourselves have seen what I did to the Egyptians, and how I bore you on eagles’ wings and brought you to myself” (Exodus 19:4, emphasis added).
  • Immediately prior to speaking the Commandments, God says, “I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery” (Exodus 20:2, emphasis added).

So the Israelites’ relationship with God precedes the giving of the Law. They enter into a relationship with God through His love, by His grace (Deuteronomy 7:6-8).

Furthermore, they do not remain in relationship with God through keeping the Law. In Exodus 32, they explicitly break the Commandments. God’s judgment falls on a small percentage, but He reveals Himself as “merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, … forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin” (Exodus 34:6-7).

Now, He goes on to say He “will by no means leave the guilty unpunished” (Exodus 34:7 NIV) – He is the God of both grace and justice. We only understand fully how God’s grace and justice both hold when we see Jesus’ death on the cross.

But our point for today is this: Neither the Israelites nor we today enter into a relationship with God through obedience to the Law. Neither the Israelites nor we today remain in a relationship with God through obedience to the Law. We enter into a relationship with Him by grace through faith. We remain in that relationship by grace through faith.

 

The Nature of the Ten Commandments: Life in God’s Family

When we hear the word “law,” we normally think of some set of restrictions on our behavior. A sign on I-485 says that there is a law prohibiting you from driving faster than 70mph. If you see a police car in your rearview mirror, you will restrict your driving speed. You will not drive 80mph.

But God’s Law is not fundamentally a set of restrictions on our behavior. Instead, God’s Law fundamentally is a revelation of His character. Through the Law, He tells us what He loves and what He hates: “I the LORD love justice; I hate robbery and wrong” (Isaiah 61:8). God in His holy essence hates and despises sin, He despises evil; in His essence, he loves righteousness and justice.

 

Now, connect this with the idea of God’s people being His family. When we had six little children running around the house needing correction, we would sometimes say, “We’re Pinckneys – we don’t act that way.” We then explained how we behave.

That’s similar to what Jesus says in the Sermon on the Mount: “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48).

Thus, when God tells us to obey His Law, He is saying, “Become like Me! I have brought you to Myself! You are part of my intimate family! This is your identity; this is who you are. So act like it’s true! Act like Me!”

So God does not give us the Ten Commandments, saying, “Obey these and you will be in My family.” Nor does He say, “Obey these in order to remain in My family.” Instead, He says to the Israelites – and to us! – “You are in the family. And this is how those in my family live. This is how they reflect my character.”

 

Four Implications for Understanding the Ten Commandments

a) The Ten Commandments are positive, not only negative

We don’t become like God simply by avoiding certain actions – we must change positively!

For example, consider the seventh commandment: “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). Many never commit the physical act of adultery, but lust after others. Jesus tells us these too break the commandment (Matthew 5:28). But we can’t just modify the commandment to include a prohibition of lust! Rather, the Commandment exhorts us to take on the character of God. We positively are to honor marriage, to build up own, to assist others to strengthen their marriages, all to the glory of God.

So, in general, each commandment forbids some attitudes and behaviors while commending others.

b) No one will succeed in fully taking on the character of God

Those at the moment outside God’s family are “dead in trespasses and sin” (Ephesians 2:1). God graciously brings the redeemed into His family, making us “alive together with Christ” (Ephesians 2:5). He grants us His Spirit, enabling us to “put to death the deeds of the body” (Romans 8:13), providing a way of escape from temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13) and producing in us Christlike character (Galatians 5:22-23). Yet we all fail; “If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8).

The Day is coming after Jesus returns when He does away with sin forever. We will be like Him, seeing Him as He is (1 John 3:2). But until that Day, we will stumble and fall. However much we grow – and we should grow! – we will never be perfect as our heavenly Father.

c) Jesus fully displayed the character of God

Jesus said He came to fulfill the Law (Matthew 5:17) – and He did. He showed us what God is like: “Whoever has seen Me has seen the Father” (John 14:9). He loved God with all His heart, soul, mind, and strength every minute of every day. He loved every person He encountered as He loved Himself.

d) How then can we be like God? Though union with Jesus!

When we come to God by grace through faith in Jesus, God not only saves us from our sins, wiping out the negatives from our accounts; He also credits us with the righteousness of Jesus – in Him we become “the righteousness of God” (2 Corinthians 5:21). His active obedience to the entirety of the Law is credited to us.

 

Thus, the Ten Commandments do not constitute a law code for ancient Israel (in our contemporary sense of law code). Rather they are a revelation of the character of God, so that those in His family might know Him better and become like Him by His grace. And that happens only via Jesus.

So salvation is not primarily about saving us from hell – it is that, but also much more. Salvation is primarily about being in God’s family, credited with Jesus’ righteousness, transformed to become like Him – partially in this life, completely in the next.

(This devotion is based on the first half of a sermon on Exodus 20:1-3 preached May 9, 2010, “Having Been Saved By Grace, Do You Put God First?” The audio is available here. An earlier blog post covering some of the same material is here.)

Who is #Blessed?

Who is blessed?

If you search social media for #blessed, what will you find?

Or consider a similar question: What leads to a happy, satisfied, fulfilling life?

If you were to ask that question of random people in Charlotte, what might they say? You would likely find people who would answer:

  • Career success/accomplishment
  • Working to change the world, to make it a better place, perhaps through local service, perhaps through politics
  • Working to help those around you who are less well off
  • Others might focus on possessions: Having a nice house, or a second house at the beach, in the mountains, on a lake; having the latest gadgets, or car, or clothes
  • Yet others would say: Having good health and a great body
  • That’s then related to: being attractive sexually, having great sex – and, some would say, with multiple partners
  • Others might focus on aesthetics and intellectual engagement: Great music, great books, great art, great conversation
  • Others might focus on friends or family
  • Others might say: There’s no way in this crazy world to be happy and satisfied; the only way to some joy is to escape through drugs, fantasies, virtual reality, or the metaverse
  • Others might say – believe in Jesus, and you will be blessed.

What does Psalm 119 say?

Psalm 119:1-3: Blessed are those whose way is blameless, who walk in the law of the LORD! Blessed are those who keep his testimonies, who seek him with their whole heart, who also do no wrong, but walk in his ways!

How does the psalmist’s answer compare to the others?

This answer differs from all of them, including the last. The psalmist’s answer is more complex than any of the others. He tells us to walk in the Law, to walk in His ways, on His paths, and to seek God with all that we are. This answer clearly is not speaking of a one-time decision that moves you from “unblessed” to “blessed.” Indeed, the psalmist is not speaking of something you obtain or an activity you do.

Instead, the psalm describes a relationship with God. Indeed, a specific type of relationship with God – the type of relationship Jesus had with the Father during His time on earth. For Jesus walked in the Law of the Lord. Jesus kept God’s testimonies. Jesus sought the Father with all His heart. Jesus did no wrong but walked on the Father’s ways and paths.

Before He began His public ministry, Jesus referred to this idea. Do you remember what He said when He had fasted for forty days and was hungry, in response to Satan’s temptation to turn stones into bread? Quoting Deuteronomy 8, He says, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God” (Matthew 4:4).

That’s the attitude of the author of Psalm 119: “Your Word is my life! I live by listening to You, following You, trusting You!”

So Psalm 119 describes a right relationship with God, which Jesus then lived out.

The psalm promises that we too can have such a relationship with God: life-giving, fulfilling, satisfying – blessed. Furthermore, we know from 2 Corinthians 1:20 that “Every one of God ‘s promises is ‘Yes’ in [Jesus].” So the promise of Psalm 119 of a blessed life, true life – deep joy in Him in the midst of a crazy, fallen, dangerous world – that promise is yes in Jesus, as we come to the Father through the crucified and risen Son.

That’s the central message of this psalm: We find true life only in God, and He communicates Himself in His Word. And today we know: Jesus is the living Word who displayed and fulfilled the written Word, enabling rebels like us to have that blessed relationship with the Father.

Consider the structure of this psalm. There are 22 sections containing eight verses each, and thus 176 verses in total. Most Bibles label each eight-verse section with a letter of the Hebrew alphabet, for all eight verses in every section begin with the same letter.

Almost every verse refers to God’s Word in some way, using words such as: Law, Word, ordinances, testimonies, commandments, statutes, precepts, sayings, and promise.

But the Word in this psalm is not at all a set of rules we obey in order to gain access to God. Nor is this Word a set of laws we obey outwardly to satisfy the Lawgiver, while deep in our hearts we long to violate them.

No. This Word is the path to true life, true joy, true happiness, true blessedness. For this Word is the path of a relationship with our loving Creator – the path that Jesus walked before us.

So I encourage you: Read this psalm expectantly. Learn how you can know and love God through His Word.

And then – walk in His ways, to His glory and to your joy.

[This devotion is edited from the introduction to the July 24 sermon, “Know and Love God Through His Word.” You can listen to that sermon via this link.]

Study and Worship

[Martyn Lloyd-Jones preached 372 sermons on the Apostle Paul’s Letter to the Romans on Friday evenings at Westminster Chapel in London between 1955 and 1968. Some people considered these Bible lectures rather than worship services. He reacts strongly against that idea in this excerpt from one of his last sermons in the series – Coty]

Bible study should never be regarded as an entity in and of itself. … I call our Friday night meeting a service and that is what it is. I do not recognize a Bible lecture or anything like that; I do not understand it and I do not believe in it. There is only one way to expound the Scriptures and it must always be the same way.

Now some people do not agree with that. They say, ‘Oh, no, you need Bible lectures and you need Bible instruction; you must not apply it, and you must not preach.’ I think that is absolutely fatal. The Bible is always to be preached, and must always be applied.

Still less do I believe in holding examinations on peoples’ knowledge of the Scriptures. To sit an examination on your knowledge of the Bible, in the way you would take an examination in geometry or chemistry or history, is to ask for trouble. … People have this knowledge, they have it all classified and divided, and it is all purely intellectual, purely academic, purely theoretical, and it is all wrong. People who study the Bible in this way are guilty of the very thing that the Apostle tells us [in Romans 14] we should never be guilty of.

And so I come to this: the church has often got into trouble through neglect of this principle in the matter of theological seminaries. … You will often find evangelical people saying that the trouble with the church today stems from the colleges, and, of course, they are perfectly right. But here is the question: Why has there been trouble in the colleges? And the answer is because theology has been taught as a subject.

People in earlier times used to boast that theology was the queen of the sciences. What they really meant was that it was the most interesting and the most profound of all the studies that a person could ever be engaged in, and, of course, that is right. But they should never have put it into competition with the others; it does not belong there. No, we must say that theology is different from every other study.

Why? Because with every other study you can be objective, and the more objective you are the better. You are detached, you look on. But if you study theology like that, it would be better for you never to have started. What is theology? It is the study of God. And can you study God objectively? Can you just look on intellectually? You cannot, it is impossible. To be strictly accurate, you cannot study God in any sense, but if you are trying to get knowledge about God and to know God, your whole attitude is immediately different because this is worship. When you are studying sciences or history, then you can lounge in an armchair or lie on you back in bed. But you should not study theology like that, because the study of theology always involves a relationship with God. That must never be forgotten. Indeed, if I may use [Romans 14:17], I can put it like this: The kingdom of God is not logic-chopping about particular theological points of view or definitions, but it is my relationship to God – ‘righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.’

It is obviously necessary that the man who is to preach and teach should be rendered capable of doing so. … He therefore needs a certain amount of training. That is all right, but the history of this matter shows very clearly that the moment you have a theological college there is danger and those involved must be watchful and careful. …

You will find, if you go into the history of these matters, that the people who, say two hundred and three hundred years ago, formed academies and colleges for the training of preachers, always realized the danger of separating theory from worship. So they reduced the course to the minimum, and tried to make it as practical as they could. But – and this was the most important thing of all – it was all in an atmosphere of worship. So the lecturer on theology would never dream of starting his lecture without prayer, without worship, without adoration, without reminding the students that the ultimate object was to bring them to a greater knowledge of God, in order that they might be better able to impart this truth to others; they always kept their teaching ‘living.’ I am thinking, for example, of the Independents like Philip Doddridge and others, who started their academies; I am thinking of William Tennent, who started the famous Log College, which later became Princeton University and the Princeton Seminary. …

These men always safeguarded the study of theology, but the trouble was that as the years passed and as the spirituality of the professors and teachers went down and down, so the element of worship was forgotten and theology became an abstract science to be handled like any other subject. …

You will find that evangelical people in this century have failed to remember this principle. They have become more concerned with academic qualifications and results, with degree and diplomas … than with the spirituality of the men who are being trained. These men are packed with theoretical knowledge, and often a man who goes in with his heart ablaze with the truth and the desire to preach it and to propagate it, comes out as a man whose head is full of knowledge but who has lost the fire, and is neither a preacher nor really an adequate teacher. …

The troubles that have arisen in all these areas have come because men have forgotten that the kingdom of God is not this, that or the other, but ‘righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.’ Throughout the centuries there has been a divided church and a dead church, a quarrelling church and a scandalous church, simply because this great principle has either been forgotten or has not been implemented.

[Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Romans: Liberty and Conscience, Exposition of Chapter 14:1-17 (Banner of Truth, 2003), p. 212-215. This message was preached in 1968. Italics are in the original; I added the underlining. You can download or listen to the audio of this sermon via this link (the sermon is entitled “A Sense of Balance (1).”) The excerpted section begins at 33:16 of the recording.]